Symbolically you can say that within us there is a child aspect and and adult aspect. The child aspect is emotional, vulnerable, in need of loving care and safe limits, fun loving, creative and spontaneous. Just like a real live child. The adult aspect is the one that takes care of business. It is the job of our inner adult to create a life situation that is safe and sound and helps us flourish. It is also up to the adult to create a good inner cooperation with the child. A responsible adult listens and cares and then makes decisions based both on the needs and wants of the child and on the possibilities of the situation. She sees to it that the needs of the child are met without creating trouble with the environment. She changes things that do not work and she goes for that which promotes, health, well being and creativity.

In each of the enneatypes the inner child energy is akin to that of another type. Following the lines that connect the points in the Enneagram symbol you will find the inner child aspect of your type, as well as the so called stress point.

Work with your inner child: Good inner cooperation

Take type six for example. Like all types, sixes need to create a good inner cooperation. The first step is to be aware of and pay attention to ones emotions and bodily sensations. Metaphorically you could say that a type six does not trust her inner child enough. The inner adult turns outside, looking for others and their supposed know how. She needs to decide that the inner child is a good guide. That is how the six will access her authority.

The responsible adult manages fear. She does not ignore it, nor criticize it. It is a guide to her. For fear can indicate that there is something in the present situation that is not good and that action is called for. Fear can also be the emotional response of the inner child to old stuff being triggered. A good parent holds that fear and at the same time shows the child that the danger is not here and now. That way fear can be released and the person can rest and be relaxed.

The inner child aspect of type six is located at point nine. The inner child of a six likes to take it easy and just hang out. It is soft and fun and enjoys the physical pleasure of life. Rather than sharp, intelligent and actively attentive. Being respectful to the sensitivity of the inner child and its need to take it easy and hang out with kind friends, a six can cooperate internally. That way she will not depend on others but choose who to play with and how to organize external cooperation.

Basically, every type needs to reestablish that good inner cooperation.

Type one: Natural joy and will

In a type one it is the seven child that needs to be embraced. The one needs to stop holding her needs and emotions back. The first step is to let the emotions be as they are. Metaphorically you could say that a type one criticizes her inner child for being messy and undisciplined. The inner adult can be very rigid and not care enough about what the inner child wants. The adult reacts with resistance to the neediness of the child.

That adult needs to relearn. For good inner parenting she needs to stop repressing, and listen. Accept. All emotion. Have patience and love. At first, emotion may be intense and the inner child is very upset. But if the adult hangs in there and does not push down or attack, the child will slowly but surely learn to trust the adult again. That is how the one will access her will. For the will is based upon that inner bond. The emotional part, the inner child, provides signals about wants, needs and preferences, and on top of that it brings joy and inspiration, and the adult acts upon it.

The responsible adult manages anger. She uses it as a source of strength, but she does not take it out on others, nor does she turn it on the inner child part. She allows it and sees to that it is expressed in safe ways, and when it is useful. The anger empowers her and makes it easy for her to know what she wants and to set limits in a friendly yet efficient manner.

The inner child (the emotional aspect) of type one is seven. A one will benefit greatly from this energy if inner cooperation is good. When a one is blocking her joy and her love for play and her positive, trusting inner child, she will suffer. She may be critical of that kind of feelings and behaviors, caring more about being together and organized, than about her own happiness. Some ones may also idealize their inner seven child and not give it limits (counter phobic ones). That does imply a lack of real trust and sometimes leads to hedonistic or uncaring behavior.

When a one truly embraces and integrates her seven aspect, she will be in balance.

The inner children

If you are a two the inner four child will be a great asset to you. She will long for you to focus on yourself and you own emotions, before listening to the pain of others. If you listen to her she will invite you to stay focused on you own interiority and enjoy the beauty of it. And you need to allow that four aspect in you that are not always easy for others to swallow. Like the taste for death and tragic emotion. And the need to focus on your own emotion until it ebbs out.

If you are a three you need to reestablish the bond with your sensitive and responsive inner six child. You need to listen to your inner six child who loves the flow of communication and cooperation. You cannot shut it off or ignore it in the name of efficiency and results. The inner six child will bring you the will and capacity to colaborate, communicate, be empathic and work for the sake of the greater good, not just for yourself and your own goals.

If you are four your inner child is a one. You may not like it, but that little part of you may not be so soft, vulnerable and accepting. It may be critical, strict and sometimes very apt to discipline others. That part of you will help you be more organized and forget about sad stories and tragedy. And it will help you protect your heart and not allow others to treat you badly.

If you are a five your inner child aspect is a little eight wrestler. That energy is excellent to create balance. It is wild, intense and physical. It will help you feel your strength and bravery and get out into the world and take what you want. You need to love that part of you and let go of prejudices against precisely those qualities.

If you are a seven the five child will help you focus and go deeply into things. That child is good at precisely that which you have the hardest time with: focus, endurance, patience and consistency. You need to embrace that little hermit within. The child that does not want to go to every party but rather dig deeply into that which is really important to you. That will help you ground yourself in reality and find a deeper well of joy.

If you are an eight the two child offers you precisely that which will balance you, namely tenderness, softness and love. The care for the emotional needs of others will help you be empathic and respectful. It will bring warmth to your strength and with a good inner cooperation you can become a very warm and caring leader, that others can trust and rely on. And it will help you soften and allow others to love you.

If you are a nine you will need to embrace the three aspect. That inner child wants to be the center of attention. It wants results. And it is efficient and driven to succeed and do things itself for itself. A nine needs to embrace that and learn to give plenty of room for that aspect of herself. It will help her get more focused and really show up in the world. But that child will not be content, there will not be true balance and harmony, until she allows that focus on herself and her goals and achievements.

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